What is trying to happen is far more important than who is doing what to whom. Blame is a relationship toxin that keeps us stuck in a perpetual cycle of conflict with those around us. As long we are blaming ourselves or others we are unable to break the cycle and establish common ground. So what’s the solution??? Be WILLING to resolve conflict without blame. That includes blaming yourself or the person across from you. Instead, ask yourself why it’s important that you resolve this conflict in the first place? What’s at stake? Who would you be if you let go of the need to blame? If you realize that you are not willing to resolve the conflict without blame then ask yourself what you are getting from remaining conflicted.
Most importantly, ask yourself what it is that you are protecting and what is it you need to ask for in order to move forward.
